There is always one common denominator that people that are unsuccessful at over coming challenges has and that is negative self talk and question asking. While you may not be able to control every situation that life throws at you, what you can control is how you react to those challenges which puts you in a postion of greater control. When you react in a postive way to challenges you begin having better self talk and asking more empowering questions rather then negative, endless loop questions. Postive question give you a means to an end around solutions, where negative questions thrust you into a negative loop with no real answers. For example a negative endless loop question is: “Why does this always happen to me?”. Where an example of a positive question would be: “How can I turn this around?” One allows you to focus on solution, where the other your just focusing on the problem.

In addition to asking yourself postive / empowering questions when you run into issue you also need to make sure you are spending your time focused in the right things. Most people that are not able to overcome challenges are more focused on the problem then solutions.  A good rule of thumb is to spend about 20% of your time on the problem and understanding it better and 80% of your time focused on solutions appying energy that will solve the problem.

To get your started ensure you are using the 80% / 20% rule of problem solving as mentioned about in conjustion with good questions. Five great empowering questions that will help you solve any problem are as follows:

1. What is great about this problem? Or what could potentially be great about it?

2. What is not perfect yet?

3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want?

4. What am I willing to no longer do to make it the way I want it?

5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want?

By putting these practices to work in your every day life you will give yourself a tremendous amount of empowerment to get any problem solved. Please feel free to add to any of the above information and add your thoughts in the comment area below.